The Rise of Women and the Feminine Principle

December 28, 2011

Hat’s off to moms, to Andy most of all. What am I, as a man, to say? Perhaps only that I love the world, I love my wife, I love my family; that I love all our collective children and also our world and the trees and animals and insects.  That I love the wind [...]

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Hello, Again

December 21, 2011

Being the winter’s solstice, it seems a propitious day to offer up my “good-enough” parenting book, Privilege of Parenting, and to unveil my new blog home with much thanks to Sarah Fite (and for the book cover design as well). One of my favorite psychologists, D.W. Winnicott, coined the term “good-enough mother,” intuitively arguing against [...]

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Moving

December 14, 2011

“No!” My mom shouted at the cat, which promptly ran into the house through the open door. It was a fraught morning, the moving guys ready to roll, the house empty after 50 years of life there. It was not our cat; grey and white; lovely, really.  We had never had a cat. My brother [...]

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Walking

December 7, 2011

Andy and I are walking up Fryman canyon.  It’s a splendid morning, the mountains are clearly wrinkled across the verdant valley, echoing our own slowly aging faces.  This is Sunday in the park sans George in my LA circa 2011. “This is a perfect moment,” I say, stopping to appreciate the view.  “Our kids haven’t [...]

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Fixie

November 30, 2011

“It’s a very simple machine.  I feel very connected to what’s going on.” Will says this as we’re riding together on a crystalline Sunday as the clock arcs to noon and then crests it as we race like mad on the straightaway home. Fixed gear bikes, or “fixies” are really a throwback to the first [...]

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Native Spirit

November 23, 2011

What do the feathers of the fallen say? On a branded monetized sanitized unoccupied day? Due to the nature of entanglement, we’re best offering Thanks for this moment. We’ve been every sort of bad and every sort of good, we’re the violence and we’re the hood. The sacred and profane, they kinda get together, but [...]

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Maybe it’s all about love

November 16, 2011

“What are you, Johnny Appleseed?” Peter said, with what felt like mocking contempt.  He was teaching me to be a psychologist, a certain kind of psychologist. Navy blazer, grey slacks, leather chairs, the austerity of analytic psychology itself a gardened hedge against the chaos of badly wounded psyches and the mayhem of human behavior. Who [...]

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We have a little time

November 9, 2011

“We have a little time,” said my son, sitting at the kitchen island, alert by an extra hour “saved” by changing the clocks around. So we talked about fear, about movies and about how things that we know are not “real” scare us nonetheless.  I tried to explain the brain, our mythos, our culture of [...]

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In and out of the Way of Parenting

November 2, 2011

We have no clue what mysterious force conceived our collective child. She lands upon the steps before any church or temple has sprouted from stone, before God is even conceived by humans Can we allow parenting to wind-sweep and wave-wash us until we’re sea-glass—smooth and soft and of great value only to children who are [...]

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Don’t Sniff Don’t Smell: When Kids Hate On Parents

October 26, 2011

How might thinking about Gaddafi’s lurid death help us to be better parents? Collective rage and murder wrought upon a crazed dictator pulled from a sewage drain wearing gold pants and packing a solid gold gun, while bizarre on the one hand, also illustrates an important dynamic in human consciousness:  idealization and devaluation. Whether plotting [...]

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