Feelings Maps (Directions to School)

August 4, 2009

Once, when my older son was about five, we were talking one morning about how much he appreciated his school.  I wistfully said that perhaps one day he would have kids and that they might go to the same school.  Uncannily zoning in on the underlying situation of attachment, loss and the cycles of life, […]

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Pregnant and exhausted

August 3, 2009

In asking my wife about advice she might give to pregnant women, one of her main points was to speak about how incredibly tiring it is to be pregnant.  This is especially true of the last trimester where she emphatically said that she had never felt so tired in her entire life. The experience of […]

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Ball Boys

August 2, 2009

My friend Khim works with the US Open tennis tournament and she invited us to come watch a match.  I like tennis, but I’m not a huge fan nor am I very good at playing tennis.  When I was a kid, my mom’s best friend started dating a guy who owned a tennis camp and […]

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The Way Of Life

August 1, 2009

A client was kind enough to send me this poem, “The Way of Life”: The surest test if a man (or woman) be sane Is if he (or she) accepts life whole , as it is, Without needing by measure or touch to understand The measureless untouchable source Of its images, The measureless untouchable source […]

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Ten-year-olds and their changing brains.

July 31, 2009

It might be at nine-years old, it might be at eleven, but somewhere around ten years of age children’s brains change in a significant, but often overlooked way.  It’s at this stage that the brain’s cells begin to develop a sheathing along their bodies, a bit like bark developing on a tree trunk; this new […]

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What animal would your child say you are?

July 30, 2009

Ask your child to imagine which animal everyone in the family most resembles.  Draw your child out by asking about why they chose the animal they did, was it based on appearance, behavior or an affinity of spirit that they see between you and a bear or penguin?   Consider what your child says, and […]

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No Idea

July 29, 2009

A girl named Lily was murdered. I hardly knew her, and yet I can’t stop thinking about her… and her parents. After my best friend was killed when I was a kid, I overheard a man say, “God has his reasons,” and that was the final straw in my tenuous belief in the God I […]

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Artificial Intelligence and the Age of Autism

July 28, 2009

If we parents are going to care about, and take better care of, all our collective children it will help if we better understand those children and the world we are all living in together.  Just because our specific child does not have a learning difference or an anxiety disorder doesn’t mean that we ought […]

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Can a stay-at-home mom be a workaholic?

July 27, 2009

Debra Borys, Ph.D., a clinical and health psychologist in the West Los Angeles with particular expertise in trauma mentioned an intriguing and disturbing trend amongst a growing number of former professional women:  full time moms who have fallen into workaholic lifestyles.   Could someone be a workaholic without a job outside the home?  Dr. Borys, a […]

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Walk don’t run to better parenting

July 26, 2009

Forty years ago human beings took their first step on the moon… at the same time that I took a step off a dock at summer camp, became trapped under it and nearly drowned.  Now it might not exactly have been at the same moment, but in my former life as a filmmaker I learned that […]

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